After much thought and hesitation, I find it necessary to explain a few things about money in SL, especially for those who are very new.
Some places don't like to talk about money, and some places think it is 'dirty' or has a stigma. Other places are only about money (sometimes that is obvious; sometimes it is well-hidden!)
Yes, there are many 'scams'. But, there are many legitimate cases too. Sadly, it can be difficult to see which is which, so I am writing this (hopefully) practical guide to help provide some assistance.
If you disagree with any point I make, fine. But it is necessary for me to start making policies about various issues, to try to keep a balance and growth attitude possible.
Future Femdom is a public place, so every type of person and agenda may walk down those ramps. I do my best to educate and enforce customs and rules, and this is an evolving situation!
Why am I doing this?
Partly because I don't like to see anyone being taken advantage of.
Partly because I like to open eyes when possible.
Partly because I think the future is related to more understanding and free, open communication.
(some of my Sisters are not fond of my upfront talk about money, but I prefer that way than to being afraid of discussion, or to hiding an obviously important topic)
I have tried to create 3 basic points that should help encourage some understanding: Elaborations on the points follow.
1. Money may sometimes be a large or small ingredient of a recipe, but it is a necessary one in this world in any recipe, so don't deny it or think it is dirty. Carry some money and have fun spending it. I do. I believe in a healthy economy and I believe in gifts. Gifts make people happy, don't they? Money is not inherently evil. It can be abused, however!
I am amazed that sometimes a slave is around for many weeks and gets plenty of 'attention' but if the very reasonable and appropriate topic of tributes/donations is brought up, that slave becomes defensive, arrogant or annoyed and suddenly, the Women who had invested so much passion and love are all of sudden categorized as escorts or worse. What changed?
I will say it simply: Entitlement is taking advantage. Any man that thinks, somehow, he can disrespect the Sisterhood in any way, including telling Us we are not worth basic, customary economic respect, is insulting the Matriarchy. A man's words or loyalty can be sweet and warming, but in this world where men are like the changing wind, money is an obvious, basic level of support.
I have always owned property here and been working in the business world. (Once you are doing that, you see things very differently)
2. Doing something only for money is not admirable to me and is not ethical.
Many people are doing it that way in SL. So many scams and I am reluctant to list the most popular ones here.
However, doing something only for passion (and ignoring money) is not wise and will lead to failure because leaving out such a simple ingredient will make a recipe not successful.
Balance is the best way.
There are obvious scams where people are doing things just for money. To make it more complicated, there are those who claim to enjoy 'financial domination'. I cannot condone this. Actually, it's a problem that plagues SL.
In the end, it really is a form of taking advantage and abuse with money.
I step on men and crush them sometimes, but their worship is willing, never coerced. I apply the same concept to tributes.
I am an aware Goddess. I realize that 'financial domination' is a real 'kink' for some people and actually is willing for them. At that point, I turn to the simple rule that a Goddess must exercise Responsibility more than anything else. (more than Power, for example). it does not matter if a man wants to be made poor....or owned by a 2-way leash...or kept as your exclusive pet..... men want all sorts of things. That is their energy that we often enjoy to play with!
Your Responsibiliy is far greater than his wants.
That is my definition of Femdom.
On the other end, there are those who do things only for passion/love/social reasons but refuse to tolerate an economic aspect. That is up to them. But I do not consider that a clever way to grow a business, realm, temple or any type of growing place. I have been criticized by some about my upfront attitudes about money (telling slaves they must show support etc), but I am on a mission to grow something and I take it seriously. It's not even a business or a passion..it is both AND a divine mission. All forms of support are needed....love, energy, maturity...and yes, money!
3. If you cannot afford something, be honest about it. But also, do your best to change your situation so you can afford things soon. In other words, try to get involved in the economy.
I know that, for new arrivals, it is hard to figure out walking in a straight line, let along a tribute system. So I am patient. If someone asks you for money, use common sense. Do not become poor. Participation in the economy means that you stay alive in it! If anyone is trying to 'drain' you, be alert and be cautious. On the other side, do not be cheap or sneaky about money. Be respectful at all times.
is it a balance? Yes.
But what in life isn't?
If you want even more practical tips or ideas, please feel free to IM me anytime.
My goal is to make things better and more open.