A casual tour through Second Life can reveal much, and one of the many surprising phenomena I encounter often is that of 'Sissies'.
I admit I am not versed in the bdsm culture, though I am always confident every kink imaginable is explored by humanity. I enjoy exploring many of them myself! Sometimes I am amazed, though, by certain trends being more popular than I would have ever guessed!
From what I can tell
(and I apologize if I don't have all details correct..) men dressing in 'women's clothes'
(as they perceive women's clothes to be) and acting like maids (often very 'submissively') are known as Sissies.
On the basic level, I certainly don't care what people do sexually if it is consensual and not criminal, but the point of this article is to examine the message the behavior transmits to those who may witness or become involved in that behavior.
In other words: the possible meaning and impact of a behavior or culture.
Every 'Sissy' I have encountered to date wants to be submissive, often to the most degrading extent. They may identify with terms like 'slut' or 'whore', etc. Their idea of our clothing seems to center around lingerie, maid's outfits, ballet skirts or some strange combination. (I don't recall every seeing a Sissy wearing jeans and a t-shirt, but maybe that's just my experience)
What strikes me right away
(and I have pointed this out directly with normally dreadful results) is that
they seem to feel the need to 'dress' like a Woman to be submissive. The message to me is that these men cannot fathom worshiping Woman
unless they assume the role of one. In essence, I construe this as a not-too-subtle assumption that
only by being a Woman can one be submissive. It is hard for me to conclude anything other than this is a message that goes against every theme of Empowerment.
I usually ask them to drop the pretense and be proud to 'be a man' and worship us as such.
Why? Many reasons....but the main one is this: men will only learn to worship Us if they stop trying to apologize for it, or trying to disguise it. The message must be clear: the men must worship. Thinking only a Woman can worship is only reinforcing anti-feminist stereotypes.
The 'Sissy' phenomenon is also related to 'feminization', a somewhat more broad term. I know Sisters who enjoy doing this to men, on some level, though I confess I don't relate to it, for the reason I stated in the last paragraph. What strikes me as even more odd, and ethically wrong, is the practice of
forced feminization. That is an obviously nonconsensual practice and I am 100% opposed to such methods.
In Summary:
Men, if you think you must dress in female bedroom clothes to be 'submissive' then have fun with it. All that I ask is that you consider the dynamics of it, the message it sends, to yourself and those around you. Perhaps you could try being a worshiper as a man. That's what the Coming matriarchy is all about after all.
Sisters, if you enjoy dressing men in female bedroom clothes then have fun with it, too. Again, all that I ask is consider the message as it relates to Our Empowerment. Especially when the public may witness the behavior.
And finally, to all Sissies and Feminization fans: Please direct your angry letters to yourselves. This is my attempt at social behavior analysis and is not meant to belittle anyone.
Well, maybe misogynists, I don't mind belittling them.
